{"id":970,"date":"2011-10-03T13:27:55","date_gmt":"2011-10-03T13:27:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/?p=970"},"modified":"2017-01-12T04:09:04","modified_gmt":"2017-01-12T04:09:04","slug":"riding-with-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/riding-with-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"<b>Riding Together? Whatever Next?<\/b>"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>I&#8217;m Not Sure How To Deal With This&#8230;<\/h2>\n<p>Don&#8217;t get me wrong, I love my Other Half. \u00a0I love life at home. I love arriving back from work to the welcoming bosom of my family.<\/p>\n<p>But there&#8217;s a slightly unnerving feeling when your OH says she wants to join you on the weekly bike ride&#8230; isn&#8217;t there?<\/p>\n<h2>Let me explain.<\/h2>\n<p>My <a title=\"Tuesday Night Autopilot Loop map &amp; stats\" href=\"http:\/\/www.dailymile.com\/people\/PhillC\/entries\/9967480\" target=\"_blank\">Tuesday Night Autopilot Loop<\/a> is as much a part of my weekly routine as Saturday morning lie-ins and Sunday night Match Of The Day 2. \u00a0I don&#8217;t so much compete against myself, but I do hammer it some nights in an effort to give my quads a beasting.<\/p>\n<p>The solitude of the ride is a relaxing departure from the chaos and demands of normal daily life. \u00a0Come rain, shine, hail, wind, ice or snow, the routine of following a similar loop week-in-week-out gives me an enjoyable escape.<\/p>\n<p>With a second rider, no matter how pretty or how scintillating the conversation, the experience will be&#8230; well&#8230; just <strong><em>different<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 50%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div data-carousel-extra='{\"blog_id\":1,\"permalink\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.phillconnell.com\\\/blog\\\/riding-with-your-partner\\\/\"}' id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-970 gallery-columns-2 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0597-e1317648064566.jpg?ssl=1'><img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0597-e1317648064566.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"Less Of This\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-972\" data-attachment-id=\"972\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/riding-with-your-partner\/img_0597\/#main\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0597-e1317648064566.jpg?fit=1200%2C896&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,896\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.8&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 4&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;3.85&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;80&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.0012936610608021&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Less Of This\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Less Singletrack Sweetness.&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0597-e1317648064566.jpg?fit=250%2C186&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0597-e1317648064566.jpg?fit=268%2C200&amp;ssl=1\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-972'>\n\t\t\t\tLess Singletrack Sweetness.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0599-e1317648105445.jpg?ssl=1'><img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0599-e1317648105445.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"More Of This\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-973\" data-attachment-id=\"973\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/riding-with-your-partner\/img_0599\/#main\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0599-e1317648105445.jpg?fit=1200%2C1606&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,1606\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.8&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 4&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;3.85&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;80&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.0017241379310345&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"More Of This\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;More Gorgeous Views Shared&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0599-e1317648105445.jpg?fit=186%2C250&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_0599-e1317648105445.jpg?fit=149%2C200&amp;ssl=1\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-973'>\n\t\t\t\tMore Gorgeous Views Shared\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<h2>So What Am I Going To Do About It?<\/h2>\n<p>I&#8217;ll tell you exactly what I&#8217;m going to do. \u00a0I&#8217;m going to embrace the opportunity. \u00a0I&#8217;m going to enjoy the company. \u00a0I&#8217;m going to enjoy the experience of\u00a0watching\u00a0another rider&#8217;s experience increase and skills improve. \u00a0I&#8217;m going to have the sorts of conversations that only take place when two people are relaxed.<\/p>\n<p>Then I&#8217;m going to find another night to go out on my own and ride 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I have taught myself that this must be so despite the best efforts of Mother(fecker) Nature. I got my jacket and tights on and donned helmet and gloves with the words of Clive Chapman ringing in my ears:\"There's no such thing as bad weather, just\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Cycling Challenges&quot;","img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":246,"url":"https:\/\/www.phillconnell.com\/blog\/that-cleared-the-sinuses\/","url_meta":{"origin":970,"position":2},"title":"Well, That Cleared The Sinuses!","date":"21 February 2010","format":false,"excerpt":"Chilly, Muddy, Fun Saturday Ride.. While the weather and the short evenings have been keeping us indoors, I've been planning a new 10 mile loop in an attempt to stop me heading for Hollingworth Lake on autopilot every time I get my bike out. 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